Have You Ever Got A Word from God That Hurt?

Started by jazzypooh, January 05, 2009, 12:03:25 am

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Me and my sister-in-law were discussing this last month. She was talking to me about a prophetic word she had got recently at church, but she was upset with it. The prophetess was talking to her about some things that were going on in her life, and then when she revealed the source and told her why those things were the way they were my sister-in-law didn't like it very much. She became angry and offended. I have been guilty of this before as well and had to repent - becoming offended at the truth. That's nothing but our flesh raging up to protect itself from being crucified. But we have to bring it into subjection before it brings us into subjection.

The spirit of offense is very strong, and can be a huge hindrance to your spiritual growth because it is rooted in pride - a characteristic of satan. It takes a humble and mature saint to be able to receive rebuke and correction. Being offended by the truth doesn't change the fact that it's still truth. We have to remember that all the time God is not giving us well-wishes and good tidings. Sometimes He has to correct us, tell us where we're messing up at, and put a charge on us. That's what a good, loving Father does. And that doesn't always feel good. It hurts when God comes against our flesh, but the Bible teaches us that He chastens those He loves and that we shouldn't despise His chastening:

Hebrews 12: 5-6, 9-11
5 And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: 6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth... 9 Furthermore, we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? 10 For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. 11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

Verse 9 says that if we reverenced (yielded to and respected) our earthly fathers when they corrected us, then how much more should we yield to God when He corrects us? He corrects us for our own profit, so that we might be partakers of His holiness. Isn't that the objective in our walk with God? To reflect His image, which is holiness? Naturally correction and discipline doesn't bring us joy; it brings us pain and grief. But the scripture says that afterwards, it produces in us the righteousness of God to those who have been exercised (or trained) by it. So correction is meant to train us in the ways of God. That's why the Bible says 'train up a child in the way that they should go.' You train through discipline and correction. Our heavenly Father is the same way.

So after I left my sister's house and went home, a few days later I was thinking about our conversation and all we had discussed. And this is the scripture the Lord took me to:

2 Corinthians 7: 8-10
8 For though I made you sorry with a letter, I do not repent, though I did repent: for I perceive that the same epistle hath made you sorry, though it were but for a season. 9 Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing. 10 For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.

Sometimes God's ministers may deliver a hurtful word to us that causes us much pain in our flesh, but we are not to be angry with them for it. They are only the messengers. Rebuke and correction is supposed to bring us pain. It's supposed to make us sorry for what we've done. Just because the word may have hurt us that doesn't mean that the minister is to repent or apologize to us for it. It also doesn't mean that God has not called them. (We often say that the minute they give us a word we don't like...) It just means that they're human, and as human vessels we may not always deliver the Word perfectly because we're not perfect vessels. But at the same time, the pain that we feel from that Word is only for a season... until it brings forth maturity in that area.

The pain is not meant to destroy us but to produce godly sorrow within us. It may crush us in spirit, but the only way we can come to God is with a broken spirit. That's why He admonishes us to be clothed with humility, because He resists the proud but He gives grace to the humble (1 Pet. 5:5). That's what true repentence is. True repentance is a result of godly sorrow and sorrow is a result of pain (not physical pain, but the pain that comes from your flesh being crucified). But the pain you are experiencing is not because God is trying to hurt you or the person ministering the Word is trying to hurt you. If you focus in on just the hurt then you miss the objective of the whole thing. The Bible says that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance (Rom. 2:4).

So the objective of it is to produce GODLY SORROW, which produces REPENTANCE, which brings forth DELIVERANCE, and that continual deliverance is what perfects HOLINESS in our lives (2 Cor. 7:1). That means that this is a never-ending process in the life of the believer. So until we die and go on to be with the Lord, it'll always be this process:

PAIN -> GODLY SORROW (not condemnation!) -> REPENTANCE -> DELIVERANCE -> HOLINESS in every area of your life until the nature of Christ is produced in that area. That's how God crucifies the flesh and teaches you how to walk in the Spirit. But the devil wants you to stay stuck at that first stage - on the pain until you become offended with the Word, bitter towards God, and mad at the preacher. That's how he keeps you from growing in God. He keeps you stuck at that stage of immaturity so that he can keep you in bondage to sin and forever walking after your flesh.

Matthew 11:6
And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in Me.

In the Amp, it says blessed is he who takes no offense at Me and finds no cause for stumbling in or through Me and is not hindered from seeing the Truth.

That's what the spirit of offense does. It causes you to stumble and hinders you from seeing the Truth. So if it can cause you to stumble, then that means that it gives place to the devil or an entry point for the devil to come in and cause you to stumble in your walk with God. But the Bible says, 'Great peace have they which love thy Law and NOTHING shall offend them' (Ps. 119:165). The way you battle against the spirit of offense is by humbling yourself and falling in love with the Word of God. There's no way you can be offended by something that gives you great peace and that you are totally in love with.



You are so right.......the root of our offense at God's correction is pride.

Great teaching, Jazzy.  You are such a blessing!
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A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another. John 13


Yes - I had my own company which was a little mini mall which I took around to the nursing homes and let the resident shop - I covered the 5 state area around Texas - enjoyed the travel and independence it gave me.

My husband retired and moved to our home at the coast and I remained 400 miles away and visited on the weekends - he was not in agreement with me on having this company and tension was buiding.

I went to a church in one of the towns and the pastor said if you need prayer come up after the service - I went up and had this guy pray for me - he took my hand and said nothing for awhile - I said God you don't even have a word for me - then the man started saying - agreement, agreement, agreement, agreement - I said OK God I get the message - he said you and your husband must be in agreement. WOW - talk about hitting me between the eyes - I never saw this man before and no one knew what was on my mind.

I went home that weekend and ask my husband what he wanted me to do - he said sell the company - ouch - that hurt - I loved it - but it was giving me too much independence and my husband and I were growing apart - so I sold it and retired to the coast with my husband. Our relationship became better - but I still truly miss my little company even 8 years later. But I had to obey.
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I have been thinking about this thread for a few days now. Going over my years as being a Christian. And I have to say it has caused me to do a complete look at my life with my walk with the Lord.
I was going to say that in all my years as a Christian that I have never had the Lord say something
to me that hurt. But that sounds so possibly unchristian doesn't it? So I thought some more, about when I knew that I have grieved the Holy Spirit with a thought, a word, an action unbecoming as claiming to be Christian, and all I can say is that as soon as I did it, I felt the grief and repented of it immediatley. So all I can say is thank God, that He has caused me to be that sinsitive to that rebuke, and gives me space to repent. It does hurt to grieve the Holy Spirit.
Be as loving as the Truth allows, even if it's
because everyone  you meet is fighting
some kind of battle.